I believe reaching out for help is one of the bravest things anyone can do. Here I have posted some of the resources that I have found the most helpful. One of the best things we can do when we are struggling is tell someone. The second best thing we can do is educate ourselves with whatever it is we are struggling with or someone we love is struggling with. Also please feel free to share with me what helps you and what resources you have found. Please, share my blog. Share my story with others. There is healing to be found in the knowledge that we are not alone. And please, seek the great Healer of us all, Jesus Christ. Find more about Him and the healing He stands ready to offer you HERE.
One of my favorite resources on PTSD (Posttraumatic Stress Disorder) is found HERE on the VA’s website. Contained on this site is basic information about what PTSD is. There are helps, hotlines and resources for those who struggle with PTSD and their caregivers. They also are a great resource for TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury).
There are also some great TED talks on PTSD. These mainly pertain to the experiences of veterans, which should be useful to us all being that we are protected, surrounded and interact with service men and women on daily basis. And remember experiences are different but feelings are the same.
One of my favorite books on PTSD (I have yet to read many but I am working on it) is Getting Past Your Past by Shapiro. It is full of research on PTSD and is explained in a useful and understandable way.
ON LOSS AND BRAVERY
I follow a few blogs written by women who have and are traveling on difficult roads. Although their loss is different from my own we share some of the same feelings. Reading about their grief and growth is inspiring to me, helps me to feel my own pain more fully and motivates me to keep looking up, working toward healing.
The first blog I follow is Baby Boy Bakery. It is written by a beautiful woman who lost her beautiful son. Sometimes while reading, the emotions it brings up in me are too fresh from losing my very own Ryan and I just cannot do it. On other days I go there specifically to feel the hurt. Read more about my story of babyboybakery here.
Another blog is about Stephanie Neilson and her family. In 2008 her and her husband were in a terrible plane crash that almost took their lives. The rebuild of their bodies is still taking place and the rebuild of their lives is a beautiful miracle. The blog is called The NieNie Dialogues. Elaine Marshal said, “Pain changes us, but not in the same way that healing teaches us.” This truth is evident in reading Stephanie’s words.
When experiencing a loss of any kind we more often than not will move in and out (in no specific order) the stages of grief. These stages include: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. There is value in being able to recognize and define the emotions we are feeling, especially in the moment we are feeling them. It gives us power and opens us up to choice. The choice of what to do with what we are feeling. One wonderful thing about emotion is that it passes. It may return but it always passes. Click HERE to learn more about the stages of my friend, Grief.
I found this picture on Pinterest.