and things are not going well, my heart goes out to you.
My last post reminded me of an experience that happened a few years ago. I met this guy at the USGA meetings. He really bugged me I am not gonna lie. And he always attended the meetings. So I thought that maybe if I got to know him then maybe I would start to like him. So after a meeting we went out to dinner. We had some interesting discussions. One thing I expressed to him were my thoughts about marrying a gay man. He asked for my email and I gave it to him. The very next day I received an email from a woman who did marry a gay man and things went bad. She described in detail all the trials and heartache she went through and then proceeded to tell me how awful I was to even consider the notion that marriage to a gay man could work.
My first instinct was to be offended. And I was a little bit. But I also have compassion for her and anyone in a similar situation. I am sorry that you are going or have gone through those hard things. It is not fair and it is not right what happened to you. I hope you find healing in your heart and love again in your life.
Would I still be open to marrying a man with SGA? Yes. Am I searching for that? Never.